Top 10 Hot Men - from a Sex Coach Perspective
It all started with Sarah Palin.
Whenever she steps into the spotlight, multitudes of men around the country utter simultaneously, ‘She’s hot!' Some are more verbose: 'Palin's so hot she's the reason the polar ice cap is melting.' 'I'd love to drill her for natural resources.' 'Hugh Hefner needs to call her.' And Palin's internet admirers prematurely labeled her a VPILF(vice president I'd like to f*#ck).
Those multitudes of drooling men are proclaiming to their partners, and anyone within ear shot, their appreciation of Sarah Palin's physical attributes. Yet many (most?) dislike her political views, her religious views, her human rights... So, in a man's world, hot means attractive. Period. In a woman's world 'hot' is not so simply defined (women 'of a certain age' that is).
Gender differences fascinate me. And sometimes they confuse me. This one amuses me:
Sarah Palin aside, have you noticed how often men share with their partners 'Wow! She’s hot.’ Or 'She's got great legs'? My point is: Men put it right out there – no holding back.
Have you noticed how often women share 'Wow, he’s hot!' or ‘built’ or ‘look at those buns’ when they are with their male partners? Not so often.
Men admire hot women and see no reason why they shouldn’t appraise and apprise without reservation. Women admire hot men, and are conscious of why sharing with their partner may be a bad idea: They are very aware of the fragility of the male ego. They know that men attach physical attractiveness to sexual prowess. They know that their words have power and can even negatively affect a man's sexual performance.
Could men use a bit more sensitivity, think before they speak? Maybe. Could women benefit by sidestepping their reservations, finding their words and speaking their truth? Maybe. Is this the true definition of 'gender balanced'? Maybe.
I agree that Sarah Palin is attractive, even classy, but 'hot'? Not! But then, my criteria is different than most men's:
To me, there’s a critical difference between attractive and appealing. Attractive is purely physical. I have no interest in getting to know a man just because he is attractive. Been there. But, if a man has an easy smile, an engaging laugh, a bounce in his step, an aura of kindness, a twinkle in his eye, the energy of confidence, and if he is fully present, invites interaction, gives without expectations, cares for our planet... (tell me to stop), then my interest is tweaked. That man appeals to me and is certified HOT! A chiseled face, washboard abs, or a head of hair that begs to be tousled are irrelevant.
The time is now! I'm psyched and ready to plant both feet in that masculine energy and have that male experience of proclaiming who's hot. So I will share my Top 10 Hot Men openly, without reservation, and may even shout it from the mountain tops (I live in Colorado). OR, maybe I'll make a list, check it twice, and publish it.
Gender differences are not obstacles, they are stepping stones opportunities for understanding, leading to greater intimacy. Gender differences mesh with those juicy masculinefeminine polarities, creating the mystery, longing, and challenges that call us in. Men and women do not live on different planets. We walk the same path, just in different shoes. And sometimes it is good thing to walk in another's shoes.
These hot men are listed in no particular order. It is coincidental that Mick Fleetwood, my favorite, is first.
1) Mick Fleetwood Mick is passionate, sensitive, charismatic, artistic, creative, and the man behind the drum kit of one of the greatest bands Fleetwood Mac. At a concert this year, I appreciated the talent of Stevie and Lindsey, but my eyes kept bypassing them and gluing to Mick. His immense enjoyment of the event was obvious. He played with childlike delight, and played the drums as though they were an extension of his soul. I swear I could hear his heart sing. And....I saw no ego just a man doing what brings him joy.
I loved being immersed in the musical magic of Fleetwood Mac, and observing the Mighty Mick 'in the flow' he's hot!
2) Craig Ferguson In my book, comedians as a species are just ok. Sometimes they are hilarious, and sometimes they are not. Craig Ferguson IS, and this is what lifts him above the rest: Craig cracks himself up, which is evident in his subtle and not so subtle facial expressions. Witnessing is mesmerizing.
Craig excels at turning random thoughts into conversational fodder. Did you see his octopuses and coconut shells monologue? He loves sharing his gift of humor and encouraging us to laugh at the absurdities of life, and that makes him hot!
3) Barack Obama Politics aside, Barack Obama emanates love and respect for his wife his equal partner. He honors her for her brain, her beauty, and for those two precious miracles Sasha and Malia.
Words from Barack: 'I would not be standing here tonight without the unyielding support of my best friend for the last 16 years ... the rock of our family, the love of my life, the nation's next first lady ... Michelle Obama.'
4) Sting Sting’s latest album, If On a Winter’s Night… is a haunting, spiritual and reflective musical journey that sits in my soul and sends chills down my spine. Sting speaks to the mysteries of winter through carols, lullabies and hymns that span the centuries.
Sting supports human rights organizations like the Rainforest Foundation (founded by he and his wife to protect both the world’s rain forests and the indigenous peoples who live there), Amnesty International, and Live Aid.
Have you heard those legendary reports of Sting and Tantric Sex? He insists that the reports are false and that he knows nothing of Tantra. I beg to differ. He knows. And he's hot!
5) Ben, the Uber Geek Ben is our website developer at , a sage, a patient tutor, and a guiding light for those of us who tend to lose our way (me). Since I know Ben personally, I'm going to get down and dirty and talk body parts:
Ben's body parts make me weak in the knees: His hands are magnificent! very manly and sexy as hell. His fingers are thick thick and strong, enough to make a person's mind wander... As you can imagine, a shoulder massage from Ben is like no other.
But hands alone would not land Ben on this list. He has another body part that is equally magnificent his heart. Ben's has an XXL heart, and every corner is filled with caring and compassion. Ben is SUPER HOT!
P.S. He doesn't know that his poker face is a dead giveaway.
6) Leonard Cohen Leonard's music gives me goose bumps. It is soulful, bawdy and heralded for its seriousness and range. His songs present vexing questions and invite elusive answers on issues of sex, spirituality, religion, and power. Being an accomplished literary figure before he began his music career, his songs 'reveal a literary quality rare in the world of popular music, and his poetry and prose [are] informed by a rich musicality.' Leonard is a former Zen Monk, and he is very hot!
7) David Deida David Deida is an insightful, radical and provocative spiritual teacher and bestselling author. He writes on spiritualsexual growth and sociocultural evolution.
I once pegged Deida as chauvinistic. I haven't rescinded that and I haven't put him on a pedestal, but those thoughts are no longer with me. As an avid student and teacher of gender differences, masculinefeminine polarity, and spiritual sexuality, I've found Deida's profound teachings to be eyeopening and invaluable. David Deida is a sociocultural warrior.
The Way of the Superior Man is Deida's primary sourcebook on masculine spiritual practice for men who want to live a life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. And that's hot!
I think David Deida lives under my bed. He knows too much.
8) George Clooney I know that you're thinking, and you're wrong. George Clooney is included here solely because of his
political views: Clooney is a selfdescribed political liberal. Regarding the Iraq war, he shares 'You can't beat your enemy anymore through wars; instead you create an entire generation of people seeking revenge. These days it only matters who's in charge. Right now that's us — for a while at least. Our opponents are going to resort to car bombs and suicide attacks because they have no other way to win.... I believe (Rumsfeld) thinks this is a war that can be won, but there is no such thing anymore. We can't beat anyone anymore.'
humanitarian efforts: Clooney is named one of Time magazine's 100 Most Influential People in the World for 'using star power to illuminate the crisis in Darfur'. George Clooney's charitable heart is legendary.
authenticity: George plans on aging gracefully. He told Playboy 'You don't want to try to look younger because you'll look wrong. You dye your hair, you look wrong. You wear a bad toupee, you look wrong. You wear makeup to hide things, you get your eyes done, you look wrong.'
honesty: 'Run for office? No. I've slept with too many women, I've done too many drugs and I've been to too many parties.'
He is cute though, isn't he? And hot!
So, here we have 8 hot men, and I'm betting you could come up with another two. Do the hot men in your life feel honored and appreciated? Wouldn't they like to see their smiling face on your list of hot men?
Those multitudes of drooling men are proclaiming to their partners, and anyone within ear shot, their appreciation of Sarah Palin's physical attributes. Yet many (most?) dislike her political views, her religious views, her human rights... So, in a man's world, hot means attractive. Period. In a woman's world 'hot' is not so simply defined (women 'of a certain age' that is).
Gender differences fascinate me. And sometimes they confuse me. This one amuses me:
Sarah Palin aside, have you noticed how often men share with their partners 'Wow! She’s hot.’ Or 'She's got great legs'? My point is: Men put it right out there – no holding back.
Have you noticed how often women share 'Wow, he’s hot!' or ‘built’ or ‘look at those buns’ when they are with their male partners? Not so often.
Men admire hot women and see no reason why they shouldn’t appraise and apprise without reservation. Women admire hot men, and are conscious of why sharing with their partner may be a bad idea: They are very aware of the fragility of the male ego. They know that men attach physical attractiveness to sexual prowess. They know that their words have power and can even negatively affect a man's sexual performance.
Could men use a bit more sensitivity, think before they speak? Maybe. Could women benefit by sidestepping their reservations, finding their words and speaking their truth? Maybe. Is this the true definition of 'gender balanced'? Maybe.
I agree that Sarah Palin is attractive, even classy, but 'hot'? Not! But then, my criteria is different than most men's:
To me, there’s a critical difference between attractive and appealing. Attractive is purely physical. I have no interest in getting to know a man just because he is attractive. Been there. But, if a man has an easy smile, an engaging laugh, a bounce in his step, an aura of kindness, a twinkle in his eye, the energy of confidence, and if he is fully present, invites interaction, gives without expectations, cares for our planet... (tell me to stop), then my interest is tweaked. That man appeals to me and is certified HOT! A chiseled face, washboard abs, or a head of hair that begs to be tousled are irrelevant.
The time is now! I'm psyched and ready to plant both feet in that masculine energy and have that male experience of proclaiming who's hot. So I will share my Top 10 Hot Men openly, without reservation, and may even shout it from the mountain tops (I live in Colorado). OR, maybe I'll make a list, check it twice, and publish it.
Gender differences are not obstacles, they are stepping stones opportunities for understanding, leading to greater intimacy. Gender differences mesh with those juicy masculinefeminine polarities, creating the mystery, longing, and challenges that call us in. Men and women do not live on different planets. We walk the same path, just in different shoes. And sometimes it is good thing to walk in another's shoes.
These hot men are listed in no particular order. It is coincidental that Mick Fleetwood, my favorite, is first.
1) Mick Fleetwood Mick is passionate, sensitive, charismatic, artistic, creative, and the man behind the drum kit of one of the greatest bands Fleetwood Mac. At a concert this year, I appreciated the talent of Stevie and Lindsey, but my eyes kept bypassing them and gluing to Mick. His immense enjoyment of the event was obvious. He played with childlike delight, and played the drums as though they were an extension of his soul. I swear I could hear his heart sing. And....I saw no ego just a man doing what brings him joy.
I loved being immersed in the musical magic of Fleetwood Mac, and observing the Mighty Mick 'in the flow' he's hot!
2) Craig Ferguson In my book, comedians as a species are just ok. Sometimes they are hilarious, and sometimes they are not. Craig Ferguson IS, and this is what lifts him above the rest: Craig cracks himself up, which is evident in his subtle and not so subtle facial expressions. Witnessing is mesmerizing.
Craig excels at turning random thoughts into conversational fodder. Did you see his octopuses and coconut shells monologue? He loves sharing his gift of humor and encouraging us to laugh at the absurdities of life, and that makes him hot!
3) Barack Obama Politics aside, Barack Obama emanates love and respect for his wife his equal partner. He honors her for her brain, her beauty, and for those two precious miracles Sasha and Malia.
Words from Barack: 'I would not be standing here tonight without the unyielding support of my best friend for the last 16 years ... the rock of our family, the love of my life, the nation's next first lady ... Michelle Obama.'
4) Sting Sting’s latest album, If On a Winter’s Night… is a haunting, spiritual and reflective musical journey that sits in my soul and sends chills down my spine. Sting speaks to the mysteries of winter through carols, lullabies and hymns that span the centuries.
Sting supports human rights organizations like the Rainforest Foundation (founded by he and his wife to protect both the world’s rain forests and the indigenous peoples who live there), Amnesty International, and Live Aid.
Have you heard those legendary reports of Sting and Tantric Sex? He insists that the reports are false and that he knows nothing of Tantra. I beg to differ. He knows. And he's hot!
5) Ben, the Uber Geek Ben is our website developer at , a sage, a patient tutor, and a guiding light for those of us who tend to lose our way (me). Since I know Ben personally, I'm going to get down and dirty and talk body parts:
Ben's body parts make me weak in the knees: His hands are magnificent! very manly and sexy as hell. His fingers are thick thick and strong, enough to make a person's mind wander... As you can imagine, a shoulder massage from Ben is like no other.
But hands alone would not land Ben on this list. He has another body part that is equally magnificent his heart. Ben's has an XXL heart, and every corner is filled with caring and compassion. Ben is SUPER HOT!
P.S. He doesn't know that his poker face is a dead giveaway.
6) Leonard Cohen Leonard's music gives me goose bumps. It is soulful, bawdy and heralded for its seriousness and range. His songs present vexing questions and invite elusive answers on issues of sex, spirituality, religion, and power. Being an accomplished literary figure before he began his music career, his songs 'reveal a literary quality rare in the world of popular music, and his poetry and prose [are] informed by a rich musicality.' Leonard is a former Zen Monk, and he is very hot!
7) David Deida David Deida is an insightful, radical and provocative spiritual teacher and bestselling author. He writes on spiritualsexual growth and sociocultural evolution.
I once pegged Deida as chauvinistic. I haven't rescinded that and I haven't put him on a pedestal, but those thoughts are no longer with me. As an avid student and teacher of gender differences, masculinefeminine polarity, and spiritual sexuality, I've found Deida's profound teachings to be eyeopening and invaluable. David Deida is a sociocultural warrior.
The Way of the Superior Man is Deida's primary sourcebook on masculine spiritual practice for men who want to live a life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. And that's hot!
I think David Deida lives under my bed. He knows too much.
8) George Clooney I know that you're thinking, and you're wrong. George Clooney is included here solely because of his
political views: Clooney is a selfdescribed political liberal. Regarding the Iraq war, he shares 'You can't beat your enemy anymore through wars; instead you create an entire generation of people seeking revenge. These days it only matters who's in charge. Right now that's us — for a while at least. Our opponents are going to resort to car bombs and suicide attacks because they have no other way to win.... I believe (Rumsfeld) thinks this is a war that can be won, but there is no such thing anymore. We can't beat anyone anymore.'
humanitarian efforts: Clooney is named one of Time magazine's 100 Most Influential People in the World for 'using star power to illuminate the crisis in Darfur'. George Clooney's charitable heart is legendary.
authenticity: George plans on aging gracefully. He told Playboy 'You don't want to try to look younger because you'll look wrong. You dye your hair, you look wrong. You wear a bad toupee, you look wrong. You wear makeup to hide things, you get your eyes done, you look wrong.'
honesty: 'Run for office? No. I've slept with too many women, I've done too many drugs and I've been to too many parties.'
He is cute though, isn't he? And hot!
So, here we have 8 hot men, and I'm betting you could come up with another two. Do the hot men in your life feel honored and appreciated? Wouldn't they like to see their smiling face on your list of hot men?
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